Why New Year Resolutions Don’t Work and What To Do About It!
Let’s be honest, New Year Resolutions have a reputation for not working.
However, SOME people do manage to keep their resolutions! Often through sheer willpower alone!
Fortunately, there is a better way to make New Year Resolutions stick and in this article I will outline for you some very simple, but powerful methods for making your New Year Resolutions work… this time!
Let’s take a common resolution… “I want to lose 12 pounds”
To do this you’ve probably started a diet, joined a gym and maybe thought about up to a dozen other things you can do to lose that weight!
But here’s what generally happens, after a month or so it starts to become all too much. Going to the gym feels more like a chore than a pleasure. Eating a restricted diet is a bore! And though you might be feeling some results – you are beginning to doubt you can ever sustain your progress OR your progress just feels too slow! And like, it’s gonna take foreverrrrr man!
My suggestion to you right now, is simply to chunk it down i.e. put that resolution into bite size pieces.
What do I mean by that?
Well, you need to FOCUS on ONE thing at a time!
Don’t try to change everything overnight! If you are overweight it won’t just be one ‘habit’ you need to break. You will need to break several AND replace them with new empowering ones!
Trying to do too much at once can ultimately cause you to sabotage yourself. So find ONE thing you can do, something as specific as possible!
Ask yourself – “What’s one thing I can do consistently for a month that will help me lose weight?”
Suppose you decide to eat a restrictive diet. If you’re anything like me – by late afternoon I am usually ravenous and what I really want is a cookie!
So, here’s a possible ‘chunking down’ of our original resolution…
“How can I stop myself eating so many cookies?”
Now we have some very specific indeed to work with!
And now we can create an ACTION PLAN around eliminating cookies from our diet.
Maybe we’d call it our ‘Eat No Cookies Action Plan!’
We could list all the actions we need to take – just to stop eating cookies!
- Step One: Clear out all the cookies in the house and replace with healthy, tasty snacks
- Step Two: Schedule my day that so I eat healthy meals at around the typical times I start craving cookies.
- Step Three: Ask myself, what need am I meeting by eating cookies? How can I get that need better met?
- Step Four: How can I celebrate and reward myself every day/week I live without cookies! (a non-food reward – obviously!)
Do you see how when we chunked down the rather large resolution, (I want to lose 12 pounds) we got very strategic, dealt not just with ‘how to’ but also thought what NEEDS the cookies were fulfilling psychologically, and created a plan that might actually cure us of eating cookies forever!
And once we’ve cracked that one… we a) have a plan for all our other food cravings and b) we have a STRATEGY for creating long-term success with all the other things we want to do to make our New Year Resolutions a success!
Key Take-Away: Don’t try to do too much at once. Get really FOCUSED on something very specific that will move you towards achieving your goal and create a comprehensive ACTION PLAN that covers all the bases!
Remember, if you want change in your life….
The Change Begins With YOU!
Robin J Emdon
Life Coach &
Network Marketing Professional
Email: [email protected]